Married couples seldom agree on everything and prepper philosophy is no exception. The even the most perfect couple doesn’t agree on every way to prepare to survive.
What if you and your spouse don’t agree on everything? How can you get on the same page for emergency preparedness, stocking up on adequate ammunition or food. Couples who got together on this have some practical advice: take things one step at a time.
Ingredients of a Great Marriage of Preppers
• Trust: We all know what it’s like to lose trust in a relationship. It’s better to never break the trust you have so treat your relationship with value at all times.
• Respect and Equality: A lot of people get into relationships without truly respecting their partner. If you feel there is inequality or a lack of respect in your relationship, work on the part you can control: yourself.
• Good Communication: Don’t take communication for granted. The stereotype is that women talk too much, and men talk too little. That’s all it is: a stereotype. Try good listening and communication techniques like repeating what you have heard and asking if your spouse meant what they said — in a non-threatening way. Encourage your spouse to speak truthfully and openly the way you do.
• Fairness: This concept is often overlooked. Try to be fair in how your relationship is divided. This doesn’t mean both partners do or say the same things, divided equally in half. It means that the practical sides of your relationship are fairly divided. If one spouse doesn’t work outside the house, it isn’t unfair if they do most of the work inside the house, like cooking and cleaning. As far as money is concerned, it’s easy to set up personal budgets for each partner.
• Self-Esteem Building: It’s hard to have a good relationship with someone else if you don’t have a good one with yourself first. Work on building your own self-esteem and that of your spouse. A few genuine compliments go a long with both men and women. Gentlemen, if she asks, “Does this dress make me look …” try saying “Nothing does!”
Every marriage goes through stages, from honeymoon days to the tough periods where everything your spouse says or does seems to get on your nerves. Depending on personality types, marriages can turn into power struggles over money and emergency preparedness.
• Disillusioned: If your spouse seems disillusioned with you and is constantly critical, it’s time for some trust-building, listening and extra attention before you turn to hardcore prepper-style planning.
• Power Games: If there’s a power struggle going on about something more important than what’s for dinner, that is also a time for you to think about spending some couple time together and talk about priorities. You can compromise along the way toward the eventual goal of being as prepared as you possibly can.
Over time, preppers have learned that sharing many doomsday scenarios, potential as they may be, are more demotivational than motivating to people who aren’t ready to think about them. Instead of talking about the end of the world, if you live in an earthquake or tornado prone area, talk about the peace of mind your family will have knowing they’ll be provided for if a disaster they are more open to hearing about occurs.
Start with everyday situations. What if the power went out, for example. What if there was a tornado and it stopped food deliveries?
These are good ways to bring non-preppers along and help them to understand the reasons for being prepared.